Boundaries don't make you mean ❤️‍🔥

Bet you figured out what we’re chatting about today ⬇️

Happy Freaking Friday. We made it Babe.

In today’s edition:

• We’re learning to set boundaries by evaluating if we received a need, request, demand, or boundary.

• How Role Playing Can Help You Stay Strong With Your Boundaries

• Articles to read while you sip on your favorite drink this weekend

• Feeling stressed financially because of the recession? say less

• Unwind with a little ASMR

Setting Boundaries

We all know they're important, but do we actually know how to set them? I mean, sure, we've all said to ourselves, "I won't let anyone treat me like that," but have we actually communicated those boundaries to the people in our lives? Or are we just silently seething while we let others walk all over us?

Setting boundaries is like putting on your own oxygen mask before helping others on a plane. You can't take care of anyone else if you're suffocating. And trust me, I know how easy it is to compromise on our boundaries just to please others. But at what cost? Our well-being? Our sanity? Our sense of self? No, thanks.

Here’s something to keep in mind when setting boundaries is what the person is asking you a need, a boundary, a request, or a demand. Let’s break it down 1 minute style.

• A Need: something that you can’t be okay without.

  • Ex: I have a need for connection and belonging — to feel seen, heard, and valued. That’s a fact.

  • The way the need is met is not set in stone ex: I need you to text me on your lunch break every day.- It is a strategy a way to get what you need but not a necessity.

• A Boundary: can be viewed as simply informing others what meets your needs and what does not meet your needs. It’s not a judgment, accusation, demand, or ultimatum. It’s a statement of fact.

• A Requests: is flexible and negotiable.

  • Ex: you might say to your partner, "I'm very tired tonight. Would you mind doing the dishes?" If your partner responds with, "I'm wiped out, too. Let's leave them and do them tomorrow," and you say "okay" then that means it was a request.

• A Demand: is rigid and non-negotiable because the other person does not have the right to say "No" without getting punished in some way by you. Same scenario as above but instead of you saying ok you say, "I can never count on you," then your question was a demand.

And if you need a little extra help with boundary-setting, check out our course, The Good Girl Rehab.

This video was a cute reminder that us sensitive & people pleasing baddies need support & encouragement to set boundaries even with strangers. Especially in sales situations (We cannot be the only ones that give in 👋🏾…we’re working on it)

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If you struggle with people pleasing a good way to let people in your life know how to support you is to ask them to role play with you just like this guy did with his girlfriend.

Need more support with this….check out our program The Good Girl Rehab. Join today for $225.

These are some articles & podcasts we think would be good for you to check out over the weekend

• Check out this article from James Clear on creating solid Habits

• Check out our blog post on feeling body confident

Talking about your finances sometimes may not be cute but it’s a necessary evil. Don’t worry this is how we really feel ⬇️

Let's face it, the recession has got us all counting our pennies and our stress levels soaring.

But just because we're feeling the pinch doesn't mean we have to let it bring us down!

Our top tip for staying happy through these tough times?

Cultivate gratitude!

Yes, even for that one-dollar ramen packet you've been surviving on.

And if you're looking for more tips on how to be happy when you're broke (because let's be real, who isn't?), head over to our latest blog post for some budget-friendly inspo.

Trust us, your wallet and your mental health will thank you. #brokebutblessed #gratitudeattitude #happylifehacks #readourblog

We don’t want to have to tell you twice

Are you feeling like you didn’t can't catch a break? We hear you! We all know how it feels to have a busy week and just want to unwind and relax. But let's be real, sometimes those basic "self-care" tips just don't cut it.

So, I did some digging and found some top articles that offer some more unique and in-depth ways to relax after a long week.

• Indulge in some ASMR videos. Here is one of our favorites.

• if you're feeling adventurous, why not take a hike or explore nature? Fresh air and physical activity can work wonders for stress relief. Here’s an article on hiking safety.

• How about trying out a sensory deprivation tank? It may sound daunting, but it's actually a great way to shut out the world and give your mind and body a chance to decompress. Check out this 5 minute video on what it is

  Whatever you choose, the key is to give yourself permission to slow down and take it easy. So, go ahead and take a load off – you've earned it!

What we're listening to going into the weekend: This Afro Beats Jam by WizKid

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