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We’re making it through the week baddies & we have some exciting things coming up for you😎.

Here's what we're getting into today ⬇️

In today’s edition:

• What sets you apart from everyone else?Let’s find out how to leverage it

• A Podcast episode full of Good Vibes

• Ericka answers a question on moving past what people think of you

• One Minute to Communicating Assertively.

Discovering your strengths: Identifying & leveraging your unique abilities

You probably already know how to be polite, accommodating, and generally awesome to those around you. But have you ever taken the time to identify & leverage your unique abilities? It's time to stop being a wallflower and start shining like the star 🌟you are!

First things first: identifying your strengths. This isn't as easy as it sounds. You might think you're good at a lot of things, but which of those things are you truly exceptional at? To find out, try the "10 to 1" exercise. List 10 things you're good at, then narrow it down to your top 5, and finally your top 1. Don't be modest here – go ahead and brag about yourself!

Now that you've identified your strengths, it's time to leverage them. One common mistake people make is trying to improve their weaknesses instead of building on their strengths. Sure, it's important to work on areas where you're not as strong, but focusing too much on your weaknesses can hold you back from reaching your full potential.

So, how can you leverage your strengths? Here are some unique non-common tips:

Start small. Don't try to take on too much too soon. Start by incorporating your strengths into small tasks or projects, then gradually work your way up to bigger challenges. This will help you build confidence and momentum.

Get feedback. Ask people who know you well to give you feedback on how you can better use your strengths. Sometimes we don't see our own strengths as clearly as others do.

Find your niche. Look for opportunities to use your strengths in a way that's unique to you. For example, if you're great at public speaking, consider joining a Toastmasters group or starting a YouTube channel.

Embrace failure. Don't be afraid to take risks and fail. Failure is a necessary part of growth and learning, and it can help you identify areas where you need to improve.

Practice mindfulness. Take time to reflect on how you're using your strengths and how they're impacting your life. This can help you stay focused and motivated.

Remember, discovering and leveraging your strengths isn't a one-time thing. It's an ongoing process that requires self-awareness, patience, and perseverance. But with these tips and a positive attitude, you'll be on your way to becoming the best version of yourself – and that's something to be proud of!

• You HAVE to listen to this podcast episode with healing affirmations! It's seriously giving us all the good vibes.

Submit your questions about relationships, career, business, personal growth and other topics about life. Either Ericka or another expert will respond in Wednesdays Sensitive Baddie Solutions portion of the newsletter https://forms.gle/Rk5pb5Mzrf9PBX559

Today’s question…….

“ I am so scared to post online because of what people think of me. How do I move past that?

Hey Kind Baddie, Ericka here 👋🏾. We’ve all been a little conditioned to make what other people think of us way heavier than our own opinion of ourselves. We see this play out all the time unfortunately on social media where mean spirited people think they have the right to comment on other people’s lives.

You may even have a few people in your life who've tried to force their opinion on you while you remain polite & accommodating about it. While these qualities are certainly admirable, they can also lead to a dangerous tendency to care too much about what other people think of you. It's time to break free from this mindset and start living life on your own terms. Like Tess Barclay says “Be cringe.”

Let's be real: it's impossible to please everyone. No matter how hard you try, there will always be someone who doesn't like you or disagrees with your choices. So why waste your time and energy trying to win over people who may never accept you for who you are?

Caring too much about what other people think can be exhausting and limiting. It can hold you back from pursuing your passions, taking risks, and living life to the fullest. Give yourself permission to be unapologetically yourself, flaws and all.

Of course, this is easier said than done. It can be scary to go against the grain to prioritize your own needs and desires over those of others. But here are some tips to help you let go of caring what other people think:

Know your values. Spend some time reflecting on what matters most to you in life. When you have a clear sense of your values, it becomes easier to make decisions that align with them, regardless of what other people might think.

Surround yourself with positive influences. Seek out friends, family members, and mentors who support and encourage you to be your best self. Having a strong support system can make all the difference in feeling confident and secure in who you are.

Embrace imperfection. Nobody's perfect, and that's okay! Instead of striving for perfection, focus on growth and progress. Celebrate your strengths and acknowledge your weaknesses, but don't let either define you.

Practice self-compassion. Be kind to yourself, especially when you make mistakes or face criticism. Remember that everyone has off days, and it's okay to take a break and give yourself the care and attention you need.

Trust yourself. At the end of the day, you know yourself better than anyone else. Trust your instincts and have faith in your own abilities and judgement.

So go ahead, don't let the opinions of others hold you back. When you stop caring what other people think, you'll find a newfound sense of freedom and joy in being yourself.

Sweetly,

E

One Minute to Communicating Assertively.

Are you struggling with assertive communication and feeling like it's a tricky beast to tame? Learn to say no.

Don't be afraid to say "no" when you need to, and be clear about your boundaries.Setting and enforcing personal boundaries is an essential aspect of self-care and well-being. It helps you prevent burnout, be realistic about your capabilities, and save your relationships.

Try this: 

✅Know your limits.

• Take some time to reflect on your wants, priorities, and needs. What are the things that are most important to you? What drains your energy or causes you stress?

✅ Be clear and direct.

• When you need to say "no," do it in a clear and direct way. Don't beat around the bush or make excuses. Simply state your boundary in a firm but polite manner. For example, "I'm sorry, but I won't be able to take on that extra project right now. My plate is already full."

✅Stick to your guns

• Once you've set a boundary, stick to it. Don't let others guilt or pressure you into changing your mind.

Hey there, Nice Girls! Are you ready to shine like the summer sun? We sure are! That's why we're thrilled to introduce our Shining Through Summer series, exclusively for our lovely readers.

We know that summer can be a bit overwhelming - from the heat, to the social events, to the endless Instagram posts of people living their best lives.

But fear not, because we've got your back. In this series, we'll be dishing out all the juicy tips and tricks you need to stay cool, confident, and connected throughout the season.

From fashion and beauty, to mental health and self-care, to fun summer activities, we'll cover it all.

So sit back, relax, and let Nice Girls Anonymous be your ultimate summer BFF. We promise to keep it witty, relatable, and most importantly, fun!

Let's shine together, shall we? We kick off Monday!

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