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Mirror, Mirror On The Wall:
Tips For Less Comparison, More Embracing Your True Self
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Happy Friday Baddies 😎! We've made it to the end of the week, and what better way to celebrate than with some empowering self-care?
We're diving into the world of self-discovery and self-love, because let's face it, we could all use a little more of that in our lives.
Here's what we've got in store for you ⬇️
In today’s edition:
Returning to yourself: Caroline McHugh's brilliant TED Talk on the beauty of being yourself.
Some bold baddie words around the internet on self-love and self-sabotage.
We’ve got some great reads for you including a recent blog from us.
Our Founder's tips on processing feelings & staying motivated when life throws curveballs.
Unwind this weekend with DIY spa day essentials. Because who needs a spa when you can create your own oasis at home?
So, grab a cup of tea, put on your comfiest clothes, and let's dive into some self-care together. Happy reading, and happy Friday!
Also don’t be selfish, invite someone else to read this week to by forwarding them this email.
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Returning To Yourself
Grab your popcorn and get ready for some enlightenment, because we're diving deep into the world of self-discovery!
If you've ever felt like you've lost touch with yourself or you're just looking for some inner peace, then you've come to the right place.
Today, we're discussing Caroline McHugh's brilliant TED Talk on the beauty of being yourself.
Caroline talks about the concept of the "true mirror," which shows the exact image others see when they look at you. Looking at yourself in a true mirror can be weird because it's not the "you" you're used to seeing. But, it's is the key to understanding and embracing who you really are. It's like finally seeing yourself for the first time.
As we grow older, we may feel like we've lost touch with ourselves and our purpose. It's like we're playing hide-and-seek with ourselves, and we can't seem to find us. But, we're not lost, we're right here!
We may have experienced things that caused us to disconnect from ourselves, like raising kids, getting married, taking on a new career but we've always been physically present on this journey. So, instead of finding ourselves, we need to return to ourselves. It's like going back to your happy place.
To return to ourselves, we need to embrace a life where we are focused on our uniqueness. Without constantly comparing ourselves to others. It's about being kind to ourselves, loving our bodies, and feeding our souls with positive energy.
Here are some quick tips for you:
Watch Caroline McHugh's TED Talk ASAP.
Look at yourself in a "true mirror" and see yourself for the first time in a long time.
Stop focusing on your identity in relation to what you give to other people. Even if you’re a mother, wife, baker or whatever. You are you first. Sometimes you just need take a few minutes for yourself
Embrace your uniqueness. If there are things that you enjoy being apart of your life but people criticize it, remember that it’s your life! If you’re married or in a relationship, compromise is sometimes necessary but completely ignoring your needs is not okay.
Be kind to yourself, love your body, and feed your soul with positive energy.
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Want to show yourself some self love this weekend, check out these 11 tips recommended by therapists
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A word from our Founder- Ericka
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“I cried at my birthday dinner a few weeks ago 😖😫.”
Hey there, fellow Nice Girls! Let me tell you about a little incident that happened at my recent birthday dinner - I cried. Not cute, single tear kind of crying, but full-on ugly crying with snot and all. Why, you ask? Because I was feeling pretty down about where I am in life right now.
At 31 years old, I've been through some serious chaos that left me with no job, struggling business, debts, and a general feeling of being lost. I was ashamed and felt like a failure. But, my amazing family and friends reminded me that it's okay to not have it all together all the time. In fact, most people our age are still trying to figure it out.
So, I decided to channel my inner Kind Baddie and keep striving for better every day. If you're feeling the same way, here are some tips to help you process your feelings and stay motivated:
Give yourself permission to feel 💔: It's okay to feel sad, angry, frustrated, or disappointed. Acknowledge those emotions, and don't try to suppress them. We’ll be coming out with a masterclass soon on how to process your feelings in a healthy way.
Remember your achievements 💅: Take a moment to reflect on your past accomplishments, no matter how small they may seem. Celebrate them and use them as a grounding place when you’re spiraling. Also use them as proof that you’ve had success before so you’ll have success again.
Don't compare yourself to others: Everyone has their own journey, so don't compare your progress to anyone else's. Stay focused on your own path and trust the process. If you want to stop comparing yourself & increase your self compassion, check out our new Compassion Corner guide for $27.
Surround yourself with positive people: The people you surround yourself with can have a huge impact on your mindset and motivation. I don’t know where I would be without my support system. So, make sure you're spending time with people who uplift and support you. & if you want a built in support group, join The Sweetheart Syndicate
Keep hustling: The most important thing is to keep working towards your goals, even if it feels like you're not making progress. Like we said in our Wednesday email, 1% daily actions add up. Check out this article by James Clear. Consistent daily action is better than giving up. Every step counts, and eventually, you'll get there.
So, my fellow Nice Girls, if you're feeling like you're not where you want to be in life, remember that it's okay. You're not alone, I’m right there with you 💕. Let’s keep hustling, keep striving together.
As always keep being the baddie you truly are.
Love,
E
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Looking to pamper yourself this weekend? Over here at NGA we’re going to be baking brownies and watch a show on Netflix & our favorite reality tv shows we missed this week ( Vanderpump Rules anyone? Also respond to this if you’re caught up on the drama we’d love to chat! ).
If you’re looking for some self care centered around beauty check out by 21 Ninety "On a Budget? Try These DIY Spa Day Essentials"
They offers some great ideas for creating a luxurious spa day experience in the comfort of your own home, without breaking the bank.
Some of the DIY spa essentials include:
a relaxing bath soak 🛀🏾 a soothing face mask 🧖🏾♀️, and a hydrating body scrub. But the article also offers some uncommon points such as creating a cooling cucumber eye mask to reduce puffiness and dark circles.
By following the tips in this article, you can create a rejuvenating & affordable spa day at home that will leave you feeling refreshed and renewed.
Comment on below this post to let us know what you get into this weekend to recharge.
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Hey, you fabulous baddies in progress! Want to join a community of Kind Baddies who are breaking free from the "nice girl" label? Look no further than the Sweetheart Syndicate! As a paid subscriber, you'll get access to our private Slack community where you can chat with like-minded Sweethearts and get in on exclusive discounts for our merch and digital products. But that's not all! You'll also have the chance to contribute to our awesome content and gain exclusive voting power. And let's not forget about our monthly Q & A sessions with our team. Get ready to unleash your inner badass and join the Sweetheart Syndicate today!
Have you heard? Our Podcast is relaunching in May!
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