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So You Want To Become That Person In 2023? Here's The Deets On How To Set Realistic Goals

Here's How To Set Realistic Goals

So You Want To Become That Person In 2023? Here's How To Set Realistic Goals

Welcome to the first edition of The Mental Tea. Our theme this is....


Today's Flavor

New Year's resolutions are a time-honored tradition, a chance to reflect on the past year and make a plan for self-improvement in the year to come. So we wanted to ask....

It's no secret that most people struggle to stick to their resolutions. In fact, studies have shown that only about 8% of people actually achieve their New Year's goals. So what's going wrong?

Here are a few key reasons why people fail at their resolutions ⬇️

1. They want results immediately. 

One of the biggest reasons people struggle with their resolutions is that they want to see results right away. They may sit down and set lofty goals that are difficult or impossible to achieve in a short period of time, and when they don't see progress, they give up.

Research has shown that this "instant gratification" mindset is a major barrier to achieving long-term goals.

2. They lose motivation and willpower:

Another common reason people fail at their resolutions is that they lose motivation and willpower over time. It takes a lot of discipline and self-control to stick to a resolution, especially if it involves changing a deeply ingrained habit. As the days and weeks go by, it can be easy to lose sight of the original goal and give in to temptation.

Research has shown that people's willpower is a limited resource that can be depleted with use, so it's important to find ways to stay motivated and re-charge your willpower.

3. Their goals aren't relevant to their current lifestyle:

Many people set resolutions that are not realistic or practical given their current lifestyle.

For example, you may want to exercise every day, but if you have a demanding job and young children, it may be difficult to find the time and energy to stick to this goal.

Research has shown that people are more likely to achieve their goals if they set goals that are specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, and time-bound (also known as the SMART goal framework which we'll be talking below ⬇️)

4. Their environment and people make it harder:

Finally, people often fail at their resolutions because their environment and the people around them make it difficult to stick to their goals.

For example, if someone wants to eat healthier but their coworkers always bring in donuts to the office, it can be tempting to give in to those temptations.

I know at face value this may seem discouraging, but by understanding common pitfalls and taking steps to overcome them, you can increase your chances of success and achieve your goals in the year ahead.

That's why, this month in this newsletter and in our content, we'll be focusing on how to build healthy habits correctly & how to do it in a sustainable and effective way to become the best version of yourself in 2023. By consistently incorporating small, positive changes into your routine, you can make meaningful progress towards your goals and build the foundations for lasting success.

Brewing Insights

Are You Thinkin' What We're Thinkin'?

So exactly how can you increase the likelihood that you'll accomplish your goals this year?

By setting concrete plans of action & getting social support!

Let's focus first on how to creating your plan.

Set Realistic Goals aka S.M.A.R.T Goals

S.M.A.R.T Goals are code word for goals that are Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Time-bound. Want to find out how to use these to your advantage this year? Check out our most recent blog post

Here are a few tips for making your goals attainable:

  • Start small: If you're trying to make a big change, it can be helpful to break it down into smaller, more manageable goals.

  • Make a plan: Figure out the steps you need to take to reach your goal. Having a plan in place can make your goal feel more attainable.

  • Get support: Whether it's a friend, family member, or a professional, having someone to support you can make a big difference.

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Smokin' Hot Tips To Try On Your Own

  1. Identify your goals: Think about what you want to achieve in 2023 and how building healthy habits can help you get there.

  2. Make a plan: Break your goals down into smaller, more manageable steps and create a plan for how you will work on building your desired habits.

  3. Start small: It's important to start with small, achievable goals and gradually build up to more challenging ones. This will help you stay motivated and avoid feeling overwhelmed.

  4. Stay accountable: Find someone to hold you accountable for your progress, whether it's a friend, a family member, or a coach. This can help you stay on track and make sure you're making progress towards your goals.

Remember This

Celebrate your victories: Don't forget to celebrate your victories along the way! Whether it's completing a week of consistent exercise or eating a healthy meal every day, be sure to take a moment to appreciate your progress.

Keep going: Building healthy habits takes time and effort, but it's worth it! Don't get discouraged if you encounter setbacks or challenges along the way. Keep working at it and you'll see progress over time.

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