Unleash Your Inner Confidence with Consistent Action🤫:

We’re glad it’s Wednesday over here at NGA but we’ve been sick all week so this meme represents how much tea we’ve drank all week ⬇️

Here's what we're getting into today ⬇️

It’s hump day. In today’s edition:

• The parts of confidence you need to understand to utilize it

• Should you cut that person off? We’re chatting about how to know if it’s time for some space-

• One Minute to Confidence- Only focus on getting 1% percent better daily.

Confidence Building

Let's talk about confidence, shall we?

You know, that feeling of strutting your stuff like you own the room. Confidence is like a superpower, but it's not just something that you can magically gain overnight.

Contrary to popular belief, confidence is not a mystical force that some people are just blessed with. It's developed through consistent action, unwavering faith, and even a little bit of delusion. Yup, that's right, sometimes you just gotta fake it till you make it!

But don't worry, it's not as shady as it sounds. It's just that when you act confident, even if you don't quite feel it yet, your brain starts to believe that you actually are confident. It's like a self-fulfilling prophecy!

So, if you're feeling a bit lacking in the confidence department, don't fret. It's not about being born with it, it's about building it up. And how do you do that?

By taking small daily actions that improve your skills and abilities.

Let me share a story about my friend Lily, who used to get all shaky and nervous when it came to public speaking. But she had a big presentation coming up at work, and she knew she couldn't let her lack of confidence get in the way.

So, She started practicing her speech every day, even in front of the mirror (yep, that's how serious she was about it). She even roped in her friends to listen & give feedback. And she researched all kinds of public speaking tips and tricks, like how to stand up straight and project her voice like a boss.With each practice session, Lily felt a little more confident.

When the big day finally arrived, she killed it! Her colleagues were all like, "Whoa, Lily, you're a natural!" And Lily was like, "Nah, I just worked really hard on it." She realized that confidence isn't just something you're born with (although some people might have a head start), it's something you can build up with effort and practice.

When you improve your skills, you open up all kinds of possibilities for yourself. You can ace that exam you've been dreading, land that dream job, or even make new friends. And every time you achieve something, big or small, you start to see yourself in a better light. You start to believe that you're capable, competent, and worthy of success. And before you know it, you're strutting your stuff with confidence in all areas of your life.

So don't be afraid to step out of your comfort zone and try something new. Take a class, join a club, or pick up a new hobby. Every little skill you learn will add up to make you a more confident, badass version of yourself.

You got this, girl!

Question from social media:

“ Should I cut this person off if they are not meeting my expectations?”

Let's talk about cutting people off, shall we? I know it's tempting to want to ditch someone who's not meeting your expectations, but before you do that, let's take a step back and consider a few things.

First of all, are your expectations realistic?

Sometimes we expect people to behave a certain way because that's what we would do in their shoes. But everyone is different, & they have their own way of doing things.

So, take a moment to reflect on whether your expectations are fair and reasonable. Review our email from last week on Boundaries (is it a Need, Boundary, Request or Demand?).

Secondly, have you communicated your expectations clearly?

Sometimes we assume that people know what we want or need from them, but that's not always the case. Make sure you've expressed your expectations in a kind & respectful way.

Be open to hearing their perspective too. Maybe they have a valid reason for not meeting your expectations, or maybe they just need some guidance on how to do so.

If you've taken these steps & you still feel like cutting the person off is the best course of action, then go ahead & do what's best for you. But remember, cutting someone off should be a last resort.

It's important to be kind, empathetic, and understanding in all of our relationships, even when things get tough. And who knows, maybe with a little communication and effort, you and the other person can find a way to meet in the middle.

Ericka

One Minute to Confidence.

Are wanting to improve an area of your life but it feels super daunting to take on? Focus on just getting 1% better.

Stop being obsessed with making earth-shattering improvements and just focus on daily tiny gains. This concept was first created by James Clear the author of Atomic Habits. Check out this book it’s one of my favorites.

How can you try getting 1% better at something today?

Try this: 

✅Do more of what already works

• Don’t waste the resources and ideas at your fingertips because they don’t seem new and exciting. If you’re doing well at something— keep going!

✅ Avoid Tiny Losses

• Instead of focusing on just being right all the time, focus on doing less things wrong. Strip away things that are too complex and not essential. This is a concept called improvement by subtraction.

✅ Measure your results backwards

• Don’t measure your progress by looking forward because all you’re doing is trying to predict the future but instead base it on what has already happened.

• example: Strength Training: you squatted 250 pounds for 5 sets of 5 reps last week? Give 255 pounds a try this week.

• Check out our video on a great confidence quote

• Check out this guided mediation on confidence & self love

• This Youtube video by Hindz on self love is a must watch

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